I am SO glad we did! At first this was a pretty nerve racking for me. I wasn't used to just walking into a pastor's office and worried that I was going to be in some sort of trouble. Right away I began to relax and really enjoy the experience. I actually came to looking forward to it as my favorite event each week!
We ended up being guided through a program called Prepare-Enrich. It started by us both taking a quite extensive online quiz where we were asked many different questions about almost every topic that you could think of. The program then paired our results against each others and attempted to point out the strengths and weaknesses of our relationship. Our results came back and our relationship was generalized into one scary word...
Conflicted
So it turns out that we are very different people. Go figure! Our relationship works not necessarily because we are the same shape, but because our pieces of the puzzle actually fit together very well. His strengths are my weaknesses, and my strengths are his weaknesses.
Just because you are two different people doesn't mean your relationship wont work out!
Bottom line is that relationships are going to take work. I highly doubt that there is that perfect couple out there who agrees with each other in every single aspect of life, and essentially are 'soul mates' . There is going to be conflict, and you are going to disagree. The success of your relationship isn't going to be defined by the times you get along, but by the times when you fight. It's going to be hard work, but it's going to be worth it!
Overall, I really enjoyed our experience at pre-marital counseling. Here are a few key points that I took home with me.
Overall, I really enjoyed our experience at pre-marital counseling. Here are a few key points that I took home with me.
- Not all relationships are perfect
- Marriage is going to take work.
- Love is a choice, not always a feeling.
- Communication is key
- Just because you are good at talking, doesn't mean you are good at listening.
Well that's all for now! I hope you have a fabulous Wednesday! I'm off to celebrate a special guy's birthday. :-D!
We took the same thing and it made Greg look like a saint and made me look awful, he was at the top and I was at the bottom so we weren't a fan :P.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if I would call it "work". I would call it understanding. You need to understand that when life throws you problems that you might not behave ideally and the same applies to your spouse. You need to be forgiving and understanding, yet at the same time demand respect. You are a creature of God and it would not be acceptable to treat God with disrespect. So forgive and love, but always demand respect. Our favorite quote I would say is, "I love you anyways." :)
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